As salamu aleikum, Beautiful 🙂 Marriage is not an easy ride, but why it seems that ‘nothing’ works no matter the amount of eagerness and effort? Why does it seem that few years in there is this huge wall between you two and marriage becomes a painful reality rather than a ‘happily ever after’? Why so many married women fear even of a possibility of remarrying EVER again in their lives?
The answer is: because this stuff is hard.
Once you get married you have all those beautiful dreams that finally you will be able to enjoy companionship, have children, rise them together as one team ( 🙄 ), age beautifully and die together at the same time of old age.
Reality presents illnesses, cultural differences, different styles of parenting and other unpredictable trials along the way.
Sometimes it’s just a matter of a wrong look during an already terrible day.
Take one step back. Appreciate your husband and your marriage for what it is. All those beautiful moments spent together. All those challenges that you both pushed through.
Concentrate on what is doable and let some things go unnoticed.
Your husband has a different way of doing things that you do a bazillion times a day?
Enjoy the differences 😉
You cannot fake yourself into being a perfect spouse nor your husband can, but you can choose to enjoy the ride. The rocky ride that you are BOTH onto.
Breathe in. Life is beautiful.
Your assignment for today is to ‘secretly’ look at what your husband is doing, whether playing with the children, fixing stuff, preparing for a meeting/work and savor the moment. Appreciate the man for who he is. Remind yourself that the moment he will step out of the door it will be the last memory of him until he will return. Which memory you would like to keep: a negative one or one filled with love, real honest love?
That’s it for this time. I would like you to share your thoughts in the comments below 😉
May Allah bless our marriages and brings us closer together, ameen.
As salamu aleikum,
Veronika al Mahdiyah.